Vegetarian Dee

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Love in Any Language

I was blessed enough to join a Lenten talk in Don Bosco with one of my favorite priests Fr. Dennis Paez and I'd like to share it with all of the yummymummies out there:)
Please just take what you like and leave the rest behind. :)


After marriage, couples often 'fall out' of love because the romantic love that captivated us has either lessened or is now long gone (sad but true.) When this happens, we both start living secret lives that lead to AFFAIRS.

This DOES NOT just refer to another man or woman, but ANYTHING THAT WE LOVE MORE THAN OUR SPOUSE IS AN AFFAIR -your work, career, parents, siblings, sports, car, CHILDREN..anything. (this really struck me!)

We must strive to let our partners become our best friends so marriage/ relationships work/s.

We all have LOVE TANKS that need to be filled with love and affection by our partners. All dysfunctional behavior is related to an empty or depleted love tank. Similar to a bank, you can make DEPOSITS and WITHDRAWALS in your partner's LOVE TANK.

Withdrawals happen when you are misunderstood, things are misplaced, important things are forgotten. These are usually UNINTENTIONAL, but they hurt and the result is disappointment, frustration, pain and an empty love tank.

SO....we need to store on deposits CONSCIOUSLY!

And what better way to do that than speaking their language!

The Five Languages of Love
-How we love, how we experience love, how we show love

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Adults carry baggage of low self esteem and feeling unloved when primary Language of Love is violated in childhood with demeaning words.

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Most children remember not what their parents SAID but what their parents DID!
Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
Babies who are held often develop better emotionally than babies who are not.

We must speak each others LANGUAGE OF LOVE so that the other person knows and feels that you love him or her!!

Most misbehavior in children is due to empty love tanks.

All children have different LANGUAGES OF LOVE, so we cannot put them in molds- each one communicates differently. We can find this out by HOW THEY DEAL WITH OTHERS, WHAT MATTERS TO THEM and WHAT THEY ALWAYS ASK OR REQUEST FOR.


This applies to EVERYONE- parents, our children, siblings, spouses, colleagues!!
If you'd like to know more, you may take a short assessment test here.

Sending you all the love in the language that you love and deserve! Have a Blessed Holy Week and a glorious Easter! Yummy hugs and kisses!


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